ALL THE SINGLE LADIES!

Gugu / 12 Jun, 2019

Can we talk about how hard dating is in this day and age? I rue the day that everything shifted from offline and was unanticipatedly placed online, via mobile devices, social media platforms and now, matchmaking apps and websites. Like, why? Why was this done? And why weren’t we asked whether we wanted to tag along on the whole revolution of change. Fundamental changes to how we meet, interact and develop affinities! Mxxxm! I’m not happy. The intricacies and (unnecessary) details of my personal situation notwithstanding, I am here to say that the new way of doing things sucks. Look,…

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SECOND CHANCES

Lulu / 5 Jun, 2019

I actually need your help on this one. Where do we stand with the idea of second chances? It doesn’t really matter where the second chance is applied; be it relationships, experiences or even when it comes to offering yourself one; do you lean to or do you lean against? Personally, I don’t know. Experience has taught me that when it comes to second chances, I should not be a fan. That seeing the best in people and giving them the benefit of the doubt is not always the smartest decision, that when they say “when a person shows you…

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MAN, OH MAN!

Gugu / 31 May, 2019

So I recently have had a few situations in which I felt that a man was demanding to be right, heard or given audience simply because he was a man. I haven’t had those encounters in a while…or I have just become oblivious to them. Of the two, the latter is probably (sadly) more likely. I can’t tell you how this kind of attitude and entitlement riles me up. I mean, I literally wanna burst. And scream and shout. Really, I do. It is definitely, definitely one of my pet peeves. In addition to having a short fuse (admittedly), I…

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TWO 50 CENT COINS

Lulu / 22 May, 2019

I was listening to this podcast on marriage the other day (sorry I can’t remember which one it was now, otherwise I would have dropped the link) and the guy was speaking on value — recognising your spouses value, and also in it, illustrating that even though we are different, each person is valued the same (particularly in Gods eyes) — and when I was thinking about it, the questions he posed to illustrate what he was talking about are excellent in not only digging deep and changing your perspective of marriage to the way God sees it, but also…

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IF NOT YOU, THEN WHO, MOM?

Gugu / 15 May, 2019

This past weekend was Mother’s Day in many parts of the world (Southern Africa, where I am, included). I know that it is a day that is marked at different times of the year in different parts of the world. Regardless, it is one of very few non-religious but set-apart days that is commemorated almost the world over. And rightly so. The value and importance of mothers cannot be overstated – these have been captured in various art forms: poetry, song, prose, and even stage and film performance. Considering the often selfless and thankless task that motherhood is and how…

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FEEL IT, TO HEAL IT

Lulu / 8 May, 2019

Maybe it’s just me, and please do correct me if I’m wrong, but these days it seems like people just don’t want to feel their feelings anymore. Bad feelings; they run away from, good feelings; they are so afraid of losing, that they prevent themselves from even feeling them at all. It’s like feelings have become this thing that people take pride in not having or want to protect themselves from. Personally, I know that struggle. Due to some unforeseen circumstances and things not happening the way I thought they would over the last couple of years (I won’t get into…

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GETTING TO NEXT

Gugu / 1 May, 2019

A little over a year ago, we started this blog. Our first piece was published on 25 April 2018. Today, as you read this, it is the 1st of May 2019. I would like to say or claim that much has changed in my life in that time, but I am unsure. But it being the blog’s one year anniversary, I would like to take stock or inventory of exactly what has changed or happened because I believe that such an exercise is always important. Knowing where you’ve been, where you are and what you seek or desire for yourself…

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WHAT IS GOOD ENOUGH?

Lulu / 24 Apr, 2019

So because we are among friends here, I have a confession to make: I have writers block. I know this is not what you clicked on this post to read, and that’s my bad. But I promise this is not clickbait, there is an eventual point to this. But, before we get to that, I really felt I needed to share my bad case of writers block with the group. Maybe I should actually use this as a disclaimer to what follows; you know, just in case. But in the spirit of honesty, I just thought I’d let you know…

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KEEPING THE FAITH

Gugu / 17 Apr, 2019

So in the midst of my season of disappointment, unknowing, uncertainty, feeling purposeless and forgotten by God, frustration, anger and ALL of the heavy emotional burden that comes with being in such a place, I have had to literally pull my faith up by its bootstraps to keep it alive. I am not sure whether through my weekly posts, you have gotten a sense of the depth of my sorrow and restlessness, but suffice it to say, it is rough. I cannot say it has been rough, because the struggle continues. I am in the throes of this rollercoaster ride.…

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AIMING AT NOTHING

Lulu / 10 Apr, 2019

I was having a conversation with Gugu the other day and naturally our conversation shifted to faith; (if you had a chance to listen to our podcast series, you’ll know that faith is something we talk together about A LOT, and thank God for faith sisters because whew chile, the journey is rough!) and the conversation basically led to where we each stand faith wise at the moment. When it comes to her I think she’s pretty much laid it out for you in her recent posts about where she is, where she isn’t and where she is going —…

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