Millennial Mummy

Lulu / 15 Aug, 2018

By TAPUWA MAZVIMAI “I want it all, half was never the agreement.”  But is half all we can get in today’s society?   In a world of glass ceilings, #goals, the self-imposed pressure to succeed, and the varied online/offline personalities we come across today; the unspoken assumption I had when I became a mother; a single mother at that, was I’m not enough. My journey to motherhood was challenging to say the least, and it gave room to me questioning my essence as a woman. No matter how much fun I made it look like I was having on the…

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What Is On The Other Side?

Lulu / 18 Jul, 2018

I have a problem. I fear failure. I know, who doesn’t right? Who truly gets excited at the thought of failing, — and honestly, knowing this allows me to at least give myself some solace that I am not alone. But, unlike team fear motivates me; — the team that feels fear and does it anyway, I belong to the flight club. The team that flees at the first sign of fear. And if I’m being honest, this is just how I’ve been most of my life. Afraid that anything I do will always be less than, or that nobody is going to…

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The Not So Six Step Plan

Lulu / 4 Jul, 2018

I can’t be quite sure, because I’m not actually quite there yet, but there’s something about turning the big three-oh that starts to make people think they don’t have their life figured out. No matter how figured out their life could actually be, as soon as they turn 30, that ceases to be true and they suddenly don’t have anything figured out at all. Again, I can’t be sure, I’m 29. The struggle does not belong to me yet. But in about 107 days it might, and I’m concerned because it seems like it’s an automatic switch too. One minute people…

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“A Book Is An iPad That Doesn’t Work”

Lulu / 20 Jun, 2018

This is going to be really hard for to me to admit but since the beginning of this year I’ve only read ONE book. One. And it’s really not for lack of trying. I’ve picked up plenty books with the intention to read them in a day, in a week, in max 3 weeks – but with just one book of the plenty ticked off, it’s obviously not going so well. And this, Is. A. Crisis. Simply because this is not who I am. I used to read all the time, to the point my dad once got frustrated at…

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A Letter To My Younger Self

Lulu / 6 Jun, 2018

Hi you, It’s me, and I am you. Weird, I know. You probably don’t recognise me with all this weight I’ve put on, but I really am you, and sigh, we are working on that other bit. About that though, maybe stop eating a lot of fries? Okay that’s bad advice. I’m clearly starting this off really bad. I take that back, don’t do that – eat fries baby, EAT. FRIES. Because confession: as I write this I’m sipping on some hot water and lemon and planning an all vegetable dinner because I’m “trying” to diet. Yeah, we do that…

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When Is It Okay To Give Up?

Lulu / 23 May, 2018

I was having a conversation with a friend the other day in which she was telling me about something she is (I hope was now) struggling with. As she finished and waited at the other end of the line for me to give some real deep solid advice (you know the “just hold on, you’re so much stronger than you think, you’re not alone and this too shall pass” kind of advice), I suddenly felt I had two choices. 1) to just go with that, tell her what she needed to hear, I mean all of it is so true.…

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The ‘Angry Black Woman’ Needs To End

Lulu / 9 May, 2018

I recently watched Tyler Perry’s Acrimony and I won’t go into too many details because I’m not one for spoilers and I firmly believe everyone just needs to see this movie for themselves because guys…it’s A LOT. Whoever has seen it I’m sure can co-sign. I mean I knew going in (simply from the trailer) that it was going to get a little crazy. Also, I knew this because it’s Tyler Perry. If it’s not a this-is-to-make-you-laugh kinda film, it’s a this-will-likely-stress-you-out kinda film, and it sure stressed me out. Mostly because I’ve never felt so many things all at…

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Messy Kind of Beautiful

Lulu / 25 Apr, 2018

When I was thinking about how to start our journey here together a few possibilities came to mind – but none felt quite right. I didn’t really want to begin writing about who I am and why I am here, because you can see a bit about that on the Who We Are page, (also, I didn’t want to bore you your first day here). I also know that my lovely cousin, Gugu, wrote a beautiful introduction to this blog, the inspiration behind it, how we came about and where we seek to go – read it here, – and so…

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