BOUNCING BACK

Gugu / 4 Sep, 2019

Setbacks, obstacles and difficult (or ‘tricky’) situations are a part of life. Curveballs are always around the corner. If things have been smooth-sailing for a while, you can bet that there’s something around the corner coming to just add some unwanted “excitement” to your life. That’s one of the defining characteristics of life. However, as humans, we can never accept or get used to this. We are taken aback, shell-shocked and deeply disappointed when our curveballs reach us. It’s like we’re new to this life thing and we feel greatly offended that life would allow such things to be our…

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LOVING SELF TO LOVE OTHERS

Gugu / 26 Jun, 2019

So the past week, I was reflecting on how much emotional and mental stretching I have experienced in the last year. And it’s funny cos late last year, I had said the same thing about how far I thought I had come, LOL. And I guess that’s the thing with growth: it’s constant. Some of the lessons I learnt last year, I recorded in Loving Me, What I’ve Learnt in 2018… and Surrendering Doesn’t Always Mean Defeat. It’s funny because the lessons captured in each of those posts are kind of a “set up” or building blocks of sorts to…

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ALL THE SINGLE LADIES!

Gugu / 12 Jun, 2019

Can we talk about how hard dating is in this day and age? I rue the day that everything shifted from offline and was unanticipatedly placed online, via mobile devices, social media platforms and now, matchmaking apps and websites. Like, why? Why was this done? And why weren’t we asked whether we wanted to tag along on the whole revolution of change. Fundamental changes to how we meet, interact and develop affinities! Mxxxm! I’m not happy. The intricacies and (unnecessary) details of my personal situation notwithstanding, I am here to say that the new way of doing things sucks. Look,…

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MAN, OH MAN!

Gugu / 31 May, 2019

So I recently have had a few situations in which I felt that a man was demanding to be right, heard or given audience simply because he was a man. I haven’t had those encounters in a while…or I have just become oblivious to them. Of the two, the latter is probably (sadly) more likely. I can’t tell you how this kind of attitude and entitlement riles me up. I mean, I literally wanna burst. And scream and shout. Really, I do. It is definitely, definitely one of my pet peeves. In addition to having a short fuse (admittedly), I…

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IF NOT YOU, THEN WHO, MOM?

Gugu / 15 May, 2019

This past weekend was Mother’s Day in many parts of the world (Southern Africa, where I am, included). I know that it is a day that is marked at different times of the year in different parts of the world. Regardless, it is one of very few non-religious but set-apart days that is commemorated almost the world over. And rightly so. The value and importance of mothers cannot be overstated – these have been captured in various art forms: poetry, song, prose, and even stage and film performance. Considering the often selfless and thankless task that motherhood is and how…

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GETTING TO NEXT

Gugu / 1 May, 2019

A little over a year ago, we started this blog. Our first piece was published on 25 April 2018. Today, as you read this, it is the 1st of May 2019. I would like to say or claim that much has changed in my life in that time, but I am unsure. But it being the blog’s one year anniversary, I would like to take stock or inventory of exactly what has changed or happened because I believe that such an exercise is always important. Knowing where you’ve been, where you are and what you seek or desire for yourself…

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KEEPING THE FAITH

Gugu / 17 Apr, 2019

So in the midst of my season of disappointment, unknowing, uncertainty, feeling purposeless and forgotten by God, frustration, anger and ALL of the heavy emotional burden that comes with being in such a place, I have had to literally pull my faith up by its bootstraps to keep it alive. I am not sure whether through my weekly posts, you have gotten a sense of the depth of my sorrow and restlessness, but suffice it to say, it is rough. I cannot say it has been rough, because the struggle continues. I am in the throes of this rollercoaster ride.…

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HOW (NOT) TO FORGIVE, PT. 2

Gugu / 3 Apr, 2019

Approximately 2 months ago, I shared my issue of, experience and burden with unforgiveness. I think that the present juncture serves as the perfect time for an update! Kikikiki. Wellllllll, I think I have good news. On the whole, I have forgiven the person but maybe I am still somewhat “puzzled” by the whole debacle, LOL. Notwithstanding other spiritual aspects, what this means is that, in the main, I often find myself marveling at how THAT person could have done THAT to me. I will often imagine having a conversation (more like a diatribe because I am the only one…

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THE PRUNING GROUND

Gugu / 20 Mar, 2019

Consider it wholly joyful, my brethren, whenever you are enveloped in or encounter trials of any sort or fall into various temptations. Be assured and understand that the trial and proving of your faith bring out endurance and steadfastness and patience. But let endurance and steadfastness and patience have full play and do a thorough work, so that you may be [people] perfectly and fully developed [with no defects], lacking in nothing. James 1:2-4 Moreover, let us also be full of joy now! Let us exult and triumph in our troubles and rejoice in our sufferings, KNOWING that pressure and…

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ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

Gugu / 6 Mar, 2019

Sometimes we can be so whiny. Ok, I can be so whiny, and I will admit to and own this. I am pretty sure that I get on the nerves of my closest and dearest with the level of venting and whining I do. I am of course grateful for the opportunity to even whine; it means I am loved and surrounded by friendship and sisterhood. It isn’t something I have always done though, opening up and sharing about the true state of my inner life. As a Capricorn and someone that’s deeply private and protective of self, I was…

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